Stooping, Limitation, and Other Profane Words

"Maybe your standards are too high..."

Have you ever been told your standards need to be lowered to attract the "right" guy?

Have you ever considered that the guy you've programmed yourself to be attracted to is totally wrong for you? If you ask most bois what they're looking for in a boyfriend, you're most likely going to hear that its somewhere between having a job, being nice, sweet, sexy, smart and dominant. Rawr! Where's the whip? Because that boy sounds hot!

BUT REALLY--what ARE your standards?

Listen, I know we -all- seek dominance in a mate--isn't that biologically who we are as bois? But I'll tell you, my ideal definition of dominance has more to do with 'challenging,' than collars, chains, and wrestling. My perfect boyfriend will challenge me. He's someone I can bounce ideas off of, someone who pushes me to be the best, someone who I can talk politics with, someone I don't always agree with, and...someone who knows how to put it on down any day, afternoon or night of the week isn't half bad either, let me just tell you.

I think its time we move past the "nice, sweet, and has a job," losers and get our alpha asses really to take a minute and tune our boyfriend receivers to where they need to be. Not where they were when you were 19, pumped up with teenage hormones, and boozing illegally. If you haven't realized you've changed since then, and you don't know who you are anymore, then maybe you need to get to your secret place and figure it out! (Mine is the secret beach at Marina del Rey). And if you're in your swimsuit, please send pictures!

...Ray

PS: Don't steal my spot! :)

Pilot: The Alpha Boi

It only seemed appropriate to give my first post the title of "Pilot," since, after all, this -is- Los Angeles.

This blog chronicles the events, adventures, thoughts and advice of myself. A boi is a label used in the gay community typically to describe a younger, boyish looking bottom; typically, bottoms tend to have more female like qualities than the average male. Some gay men try and reject this within themselves, and some embrace it. Label or not, this is who I am--who I was born as and have grown into, and I don't have a problem with it. Self-loathing is not an ideal alpha boi quality, you know.

As a young scorpio, I was like most--cocky, conceited, a little crazy and a little more wild. As I mature into a young man, I feel as if I have definitely matured from that boi, but can't help feeling like there is something more that I should be taking from that time. Thats part of the reason that I started this blog today--I feel like its a topic that definitely needs to be explored. There aren't any hits about an 'alpha boi' on google. Where are we? Somewhere between an alpha female and alpha male, I'm assuming. Thats another reason I'm starting the blog...to help figure it out. I know there are more of us out there...and I wish -I- had someone to relate to. I feel like there are so many different types of bottoms out there, but none as together and intimidating to tops as the alpha bois are. I know all I ever wanted in a gay best friend was another alpha boi...! Not everyone is an alpha boi out there, and there is definitely alot of jealousy and resentment from those who aren't. There seems to also be a large population of 'faux alpha bois,' bois who have an over-inflated ego that masks some kind of insecurity that comes out (usually when they're toasted!).

Another reason I wanted to start writing online again is that, of course, I'm not the most on top of my game alpha boi at this moment--I'm hoping that putting this out there and seeking other bois will help us both define the person we want to be. Who doesn't want to strive to be sexy, confident and smart as possible?

I work in the fashion industry here in Los Angeles. I love my job, but I've always felt like I'm here for another purpose. One of the central points of this blog is to inspire bois out there who feel like I do.

Seeking other alpha bois out there...radio back.

ray

This california boi was inspired to write about how he felt by reading a blog titled "hot alpha female," by a hot australian!